What Do Women Want?
What women say they want, what the data shows about height and income, and why kindness keeps winning.
Tools that go with this guide.
What women say they want
In David Buss's 37-culture study, women and men both ranked kindness and intelligence highly. Women placed more weight than men on financial prospects, ambition and slightly older partners.
Height and income
Women often say they prefer taller men, and app filters reflect it. But only about 15% of U.S. men are over 6 feet. Check any height with the Height Percentile Calculator and any salary with the Income Percentile Calculator.
Beyond the checklist
Speed-dating research shows that what people ask for and who they pick often differ. To see how a checklist narrows the pool, use the Delusion Calculator. For signs of interest, see signs she likes you.
Frequently asked questions
Do women care about height?
Many say so, though most couples are closer in height than profiles suggest.
What do women find attractive in men?
Kindness, humor, confidence and reliability top most surveys.
What do women want in a relationship?
Emotional connection, respect and consistency.