Red Flag Test
Answer about the person you're dating, not yourself. Some red flags are funny. Most aren't.
- 10 common red flags
- A red flag score
- Which ones matter most
Red flags in men and women
Red flags look the same in any gender: control, contempt, dishonesty and inconsistency. Common ones include jealousy that limits who you see, blaming every ex, love-bombing early on and lying about small things.
Which red flags matter most?
Isolation from friends, monitoring your phone, and feeling afraid of their reactions are signs of controlling behavior. If they match your experience, take the Toxic Relationship Test or contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
Look for the green ones too
A healthy partner has plenty of green flags. For the "small red flags" debate, compare notes with friends, or with the Cheating Test if trust is the issue.
Frequently asked questions
What are the biggest red flags in a relationship?
Control, isolation from friends and family, contempt and repeated lying.
Can red flags change?
Some habits can, if the person sees them and works on them. Controlling behavior rarely improves without help.
What is a beige flag?
Internet slang for a harmless quirk that's neither good nor bad.