How to Know If You're in Love
Butterflies are a crush. Wanting to help them move apartments is love. Here's how to tell the difference.
Tools that go with this guide.
Signs you're in love
- You care about their happiness as much as your own
- You think about them in the future, not just this weekend
- You feel calm and like yourself around them
- Their flaws haven't scared you off
- You want them to meet the people who matter to you
Love vs. infatuation
Infatuation is intense, fast and mostly about how they make you feel. Love is steadier and includes knowing them well, flaws included. Researchers describe early romantic love as having a strong reward-system component, which is why it can feel like a high.
Ready to say it?
Check the timing with When to Say I Love You, and learn how they receive love with the Love Language Test. Or skip the science and try the Soulmate Calculator.
Frequently asked questions
How long does it take to fall in love?
Studies suggest people often consider saying "I love you" after three to five months.
Can you be in love with two people?
Many people report feeling it, though it usually creates conflict.
What does falling in love feel like?
Excitement, focus on one person, and wanting to be close to them.